My Four Point Plan for Keeping the Momentum Going for New Years Resolutions
You can’t always know if your resolutions are going to work out, but here’s my four-point plan for keeping the momentum going.
- ASSESS REALITY (As much as this is humanly possible given that…were human.) So you won’t run 10 miles a week or meditate an hour a day or bond with the kids after dinner every night have sex three times a week and write a book this year.
- SCALE BACK. So take a little walk, close your eyes for a minute and take a deep breath, ask the kids how their day was, flirt with your spouse every now and then, and write if and when the deck is clear. (Please note the intentional parallel between this list of examples and the ones in point 1, including the conspicuous use of commas to add pause.)
- INTROSPECT. This is so easy. If you hit a wall, just ask yourself: “why?” (…don’t I meditate,write, exercise, exercise my marital prerogative, etc.) This is a lot better than just feeling depressed about it. Hopefully, you’ll get an answer. And please don’t let it be because you’re too lazy or stupid or something. That’s avoiding a more painful truth, like that you’re married to the wrong person, have the wrong job, children or life.
- PUT THINGS OUT THERE. When you hit a wall, don’t keep your thoughts to yourself. This makes for a thoughts-and-feelings stew. Instead, take your thoughts and feelings on the road (put them out there) and stop stewing. You stand a better chance of creating an internal shift this way. If you want to read more about how and why this happens, I have written a 20-page story about it, called “CATRINA FINDS BALANCE.” Unfortunately, it is not available yet because I can’t figure out how to publish it. But that is one of my New Year’s Resolutions so stay tuned. In a nutshell: experiences transform us when ideas and good intentions can’t. So allow your thoughts and feelings to lead you to experiences with people.
SUMMARY AND CONCLUSIONS: LIFE IS A PROCESS!!!!