Skip to content

My Four Point Plan for Keeping the Momentum Going for New Years Resolutions

NEW YEARS

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You can’t always know if your resolutions are going to work out, but here’s my four-point plan for keeping the momentum going.

  1. ASSESS REALITY (As much as this is humanly possible given that…were human.) So you won’t run 10 miles a week or meditate an hour a day or bond with the kids after dinner every night have sex three times a week and write a book this year.
  2. SCALE BACK. So take a little walk, close your eyes for a minute and take a deep breath, ask the kids how their day was, flirt with your spouse every now and then, and write if and when the deck is clear. (Please note the intentional parallel between this list of examples and the ones in point 1,   including the conspicuous use of commas to add pause.)
  3. INTROSPECT. This is so easy. If you hit a wall, just ask yourself: “why?” (…don’t I meditate,write, exercise, exercise my marital prerogative, etc.) This is a lot better than just feeling depressed about it. Hopefully, you’ll get an answer. And please don’t let it be because you’re too lazy or stupid or something. That’s avoiding a more painful truth, like that you’re married to the wrong person, have the wrong job, children or life.
  4. PUT THINGS OUT THERE. When you hit a wall, don’t keep your thoughts to yourself. This makes for a thoughts-and-feelings stew. Instead, take your thoughts and feelings on the road (put them out there) and stop stewing. You stand a better chance of creating an internal shift this way. If you want to read more about how and why this happens, I have written a 20-page story about it, called “CATRINA FINDS BALANCE.” Unfortunately, it is not available yet because I can’t figure out how to publish it. But that is one of my New Year’s Resolutions so stay tuned. In a nutshell: experiences transform us when ideas and good intentions can’t. So allow your thoughts and feelings to lead you to experiences with people.

SUMMARY AND CONCLUSIONS: LIFE IS A PROCESS!!!!

7 Comments Post a comment
  1. Anonymous #

    Hi Claudia — Great advice as always! Thanks! What caught my eye initially was the headline. Losing momentum with resolutions. Losing momentum?!?! It’s only Jan. 3rd!! That was quick! That gave me a chuckle, so I clicked on the link for “the rest of the story.”

    Cheers + Happy New Year!

    — TW

    PS: I also noticed you have 2 links at the top of this page. “About Claudia” and “About sanity.” Are those two *separate* links for a reason? Juuuuust kidding.

    January 3, 2013
  2. Claudia, good advice. I haven’t made any New Year’s resolutions. I’m still working on last years. Jim O’Brien

    January 4, 2013
  3. moina #

    Hey Claudia thats really impressive ! and really easy to practiced in daily life and can be effective without much effort 🙂 m going to try it

    January 4, 2013
  4. Anonymous #

    Great advice! Can you self publish?

    January 5, 2013

Comment here:

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: